By writing a blog, I’m putting my life out there – for anyone to see and make opinions on. 99% of the feedback and communication I receive from this blog is wonderful – encouragement and tips from other parents, I meet other mommies and daddies going through similar things so we are able to vent and chat about the hardships and silly things that comes with being a parent, and our family and friends across the globe are able to keep in touch with us and see Avery grow! But then that other 1% is not as nice.
I recently got some heat about my blog. I was criticized about taking time from my day to write on my blog, as if I shouldn’t be taking this time away from all the other things I’m supposed to be doing. If you read my post about a typical day recently, you’d see that I accomplish A LOT during a single day. I practically never stop moving because I have to keep productive so everything gets done that needs to or else I’ll be up until midnight getting it done. To get from one day to the next, bags need to be packed for the next day, dinner needs to be cooked, Avery needs to be cared for, we need to work, bottles and dishes need to be washed, laundry cleaned because Avery’s out of bibs, etc. There’s a list of about 30 tasks that need to be completed in a day. That doesn’t include anything for myself. If I just did those tasks, and didn’t take any time to myself, I’d go insane! (especially since I hardly get any sleep at night)
So, I make time in my day for ‘ME TIME.’ There are three times during a typical weekday that I do things for myself.
I blog. During my lunch break at work, a mere 30 minutes, while I’m eating, I write my blog. Sometimes I have time leftover to read other blogs that I like following about cooking, home renovation, or parenting. I do this for me because it helps me relax on my break and work on the blog without taking time away from Avery.
I watch TV. Every night after Avery goes down to bed, we plop down in front of the TV with dinner, and zone out for 45 minutes and watch a DVR’d show. In our queue right now is Grey’s Anatomy, The Voice, and Survivor. I really enjoy this because I can actually sit for an extended period of time, put my feet up and just zone out of my hectic day for a little bit. It’s a nice way to unwind at the end of the day. Plus, when we’re done dinner, it’s nice to cuddle up with Vinay and talk about the show, and just enjoy each others company after we’ve been running around doing what needs to get done.
(Fun trivia: That’s Jackson Avery from Grey’s Anatomy. Name sound familiar?)
I read. When I finally crawl into bed around 9/930PM every night, I read for a little bit. I’ve been in college, then grad school for years and had plenty of required reading, but now that’s all behind me and I can finally read books I want to read. So, I alternate, between a recreational read (right now it’s Mockingjay, the third book in the Hunger Games) and a baby book (right now it’s Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child). Vinay likes watching a little more TV at night, so I curl up in bed and read while he watches the shows he likes.
In addition to these daily breaks I take for myself, maybe once a month, I have a Girls night/day out… maybe it’s shopping or just dinner where Vinay or a family member watch Avery for a couple hours. Because although I love Avery dearly, it’s very hard to eat a meal with him in my lap at a restaurant and shopping is very difficult with a stroller and a child that needs to be constantly moving.
With our crazy schedule, everything has to be balanced. Work, household tasks, Avery, sleep, etc. And I feel like I do a better job at all those tasks when I feel better about myself… whether I feel better because I read a good chapter in my book that made me laugh, or because I took an extra 10 minutes to look nice today (I did that this morning… skirt, panythose, cardigan, pearls, darn I look and feel good!). I need that ‘me time’ to stay sane and make it to the next day. If someone wants to criticize me about it, then that is their opinion. But I’m sure whoever they are, they aren’t working full-time, taking care of a home and a baby, and sleeping 5-6 hours a night. If they lived a day in my shoes, I’m sure their opinion would change.
What do you do for your ‘me time’? Do you find ways to incorporate ‘me time’ with your child? I don’t want to lose time with Avery and go to the gym, so we ‘work out’ together by taking jogs or walks in the stroller. He gets fresh air and loves looking around while I get my exercise!