I’m exhausted. Well, not right this second, but in general, and it all hit me yesterday. I was home with a sick Avery yesterday. I knew Avery wasn’t doing well… coughing, runny nose, etc. for days now. So I had setup a doc’s appt for after I picked him up from daycare – but we didn’t make it that long because I got ‘the call’ from daycare on Monday at 1130am that he had a fever and had to be taken home and couldn’t go back until he was fever free for 24 hours. I dashed from work (worried about Avery but stressed about having to make up the time I was gonna miss), grabbed up Vinay on the way, picked up a sleepy Avery, and moved up the doc appt to 1pm. The nurse who saw him couldn’t find any infections and assumed it’s a virus, so she had us try a nebulizer. Do you know what those things are? I had no idea and she didn’t explain it much to me so I had to have Vinay (the biotech guy) give me the 411. But essentially he wears this mask thing and breaths in the medicine pumped by a noisy machine.
Well, the nurse obviously didn’t grasp the fact that my son doesn’t stop moving. Ever. You’d think she got the hint while he was climbing under the exam table, or on the waiting chairs, or OPENING (yes, he can open them now) the exam room door. The kid doesn’t stop moving, even when he is ‘sick’. So he instructions were to hold him, and put the mask to his face. Yeah, like that was as easy as it sounded. Avery screamed and cried, shook his head back and forth, and flailed. He hates being confined and held down. We tried this for a minute and I gave the nurse a look like, are you kidding me?! She proceeded to tell us to hold him down and we had to do it for 5 minutes, and we would need to do this 3 times a day. I’m sorry, but with all due respect to medical professionals, this was NOT the treatment to give my child. I just about broke into tears because I had to be so forceful and he was so unhappy and worked up. It was just so wrong.
The nurse measured his breathing and it had improved, so she sent us home with the wretched contraption. We used it at home Monday night and Tuesday morning in front of the TV hoping it would distract Avery, but it was still so painful to see and be a part of. Then after a long day of chasing a ‘sick’ Avery around the house (the kid was climbing this chair, and pushing over those boxes, and throwing his dog down the stairs…. a typical day with Avery), I had to sit him down and give him the nebulizer alone. Well, I should have thought before that one…seeing as it took Me, Vinay, and the nurse to hold him down in the doc’s office. It was a mess, Avery wiggled out of my arms, swatted the face mask thingy away, and the liquid medicine in the contraption went everywhere. I just started balling. I was upset that this stupid contraption was the only ‘medicine’ the doc suggested and that it made him so worked up, and so mad I couldn’t make him feel better, and so mad I couldn’t do it alone, and then in the back of my head all day I was stressed because I knew I had to makeup 1 1/2 days of work… somewhere between working my usual house and taking care of Avery and he had only napped 20 minutes today (when he usually naps 2 hours)… so although I brough my laptop home I didn’t have a second to work, and forget working after he goes to bed at 7pm, because by the time I pickup the house and prep for the next day, and make dinner, it’s past 8pm and I’m ready to crash. Ugh.
So what was a Mom to do? After letting out my tears of frusteration, I went to work. I setup my laptop on the dining room table, found Elmo on YouTube, put Avery in the chair (I NEVER do this…. he rarely watches any TV), and put on the show. Avery was thrilled. After a bit I turned on the nebulizer (which makes a scary loud noise so ofcoarse it would freak out a 15 month olf), and got his attention on Elmo again, and put it over his face. And you know what? It worked. For 3-4 minutes he didn’t move… just pointed at the screen and bounced his head to the music. A brief shake of his head and I thought all was lost, but he went back to the screen and we finished at just under 6 minutes! Whew. And to add to our accomplishment, I gave Avery 5 m&m’s. Man, what he thrilled!
But we’re not out of the woods yet because Avery was up every 2 hours last night coughing… poo lil guy. So if this continues, this stupid nebulizer thing is NOT the solution and I’ll be making another trip to the doc’s. I haven’t got a call from Avery’s daycare yet today though, so that means he’s doing well….
How do you cope as a parent when your kid is sick? Some days I just wish I was a doctor so I knew how to make him better…